Seasons of Marriage - Spring
- tc rebel
- Oct 2, 2021
- 6 min read
Brothers and sisters, today we are going to start a four-part series on marriage. We will be talking about the four seasons, Spring is the beginning, the courtship, and the honeymoon. Summer, we’re settling in getting to know one another on a deeper level, Fall, now we’re talking about children and a place of our own, working out our schedules to spend the maximum amount of time with each other and finally winter, while everything is getting cold, we’re warming up to all the years that have gone by and how much we “should” still care for each other.
Today we’ll be talking about Spring and how we should rely on God our Father to guide our path and help us select the right mate, whether you’re a gentleman seeking a gentlewoman or a gentlewoman seeking a gentleman. God knows what’s on our hearts and if we let HIM brothers and sisters HE will select the right person for the job, for our life, the right person, right when we need them.
Psalm chapter 37 verse 4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Proverbs chapter 18 verse 22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs chapter 31 verse 10 “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.”
Job chapter 31 verse 1-8 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. For what is our lot from God above, our heritage from the Almighty on high? Is it not ruin for the wicked, disaster for those who do wrong? Does he not see my ways and count my every step? “If I have walked with falsehood or my foot has hurried after deceit— let God weigh me in honest scales and he will know that I am blameless— if my steps have turned from the path, if my heart has been led by my eyes, or if my hands have been defiled, then may others eat what I have sown, and may my crops be uprooted.
What we can learn from these passages brothers and sisters are that Love, TRUE LOVE, comes from God the Father and that if we seek someone through the spirit rather than our eyes or for some of you men, your ting tang walla walla bing bang, then that love is perfect love.
So now we’ve learned about the courtship, what to do and what not to do. Now it’s time brothers and sisters that we learn from God, the Father, what the “honeymoon phase” should look like. Yeah, yeah I hear some moaning and groaning… no pun intended. That brothers and sisters would have been moaning and grinding, but we’ll get to that in the next part. Shhh, you’re going to spoil it.
The season of spring brothers and sisters as I stated is about the courtship and the honeymoon, the phases of our life, the seasons of our marriage, the coming tides of our union together. So now that you’ve met one another, and God has allowed your paths to cross, you’ve entered into an agreement to merge your souls, your accounts, your lives, and living spaces into ONE, now it’s time to really show each other how you feel.
During the Honeymoon phase, there are a lot of firsts, there are a lot of shock n’ awe’s, it’s not about the adult relations, the touching, moaning, and grinding, that may be part of it, but you are getting used to your partner now, sometimes it’s the little things that happen at this moment in time, that later you may miss, like her leaving her bras all over the house, and in the bathroom, or how her bobby pins get all jumbled up in with your fish hooks, his shaving cream all over the sink, his shoes left on the floor after he comes home from work or maybe, just maybe, how every time you gaze into each other’s eyes, you feel invincible, you feel like you could conquer the universe. It’s these little precious moments that if you let them manifest and become a part of who you are as a couple, that later on, the little fights and arguments won’t seem so bad.
You see brothers and sisters, it’s the little things that happen over the next year or two, the little things that you start to unveil or discover, that if you let them, they’ll eat at you, drive a wedge between each other, and annoy you to the point of being angry, yelling, and fighting that marriages even Hollywood ones don’t last past the two-year mark anymore, but God, God our Father takes the Sanctity of marriage, the Holy Union of two souls so serious that if you divorce for reasons other than indiscretion you will be condemned.
Now I’m not here to bust your bubble or stop you from getting married, Marriage is a wonderful joining of two people, and to accept your mate for who they are, not who you want them to be, there shouldn’t be any judgment or gaslighting, there shouldn’t be any abuse of any kind. Instead, you should be supportive, understanding, you should help guide them and pray for them because their wins, their losses, should be shared between the two of you.
This is all very hard to do brothers and sisters, but it makes it a thousand times easier if you are willing to make your brand-new Union work by accepting all their quirks, kinks, and all the little things that you think will drive you crazy right in the beginning, rather than letting them sit and simmer until you feel like you’re going to explode on them.
You can’t fully accept someone for who they are if you can’t get past little annoyances that you think they have that may drive you bonkers.
Hebrews chapter 13 verse 4 “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
1 Corinthians chapter 13 verse 4-7 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22-33 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, ...
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, ...”
Proverbs chapter 21 verse 9 “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.”
1 Peter chapter 3 verse 7 “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
Mark chapter 10 verse 8-12 “And the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” And in the house, the disciples asked him again about this matter. And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Ecclesiastes chapter 4 verse 9-12 “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him, a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Brothers and sisters, these are the words of the Lord, our brother Jesus, and our Father, God above, as you go about your day think about what you truly want in a lifelong mate, or perhaps if you are already partaking of this special union, think about how they truly make you feel, let your thoughts, your feelings dwell on all that which makes them special, unique. Try and figure out why you stay with them day after day and year after year.
Take time brothers and sisters to write down all the things you want to come to fruition either with your future love, or the love you’ve already found.
Peace be with you all, as we weather and erode the seasons together.
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